Hi there, mamas! Potty training is everything I hear about lately. Everyone thinks they know better what Arianna is supposed to do by now and this is that she should be giving up her nappies and use the potty or toilet by now.
I read quite extensively about this subject and would like to argue this, as each kid is different and no technique will work on everyone. In theory, everyone understands, but I experienced a lot of pressure from the society.
Arianna is 2 years old and 7 months now and is able to use the potty or toilet independently, but at night and when we go out, we still give her a nappy to avoid an accident. This was pinpointed to be the worst mistake we have made, by not being consistent and confusing the toddler about what she should do and when. I mean, who are these people to say this? She knows the difference, she understands it, but if she is asking for a toilet while we are on the motorway and don’t have access to a toilet for another 20 minutes, what shall we do? We prefer this and was a decision made by both me and my husband, and we are sticking to it, until Arianna will be ready for other change.
Now things are clearer, but for more than half a year everyone asked us why she is not potty trained? She is old enough for this and they were addressing to her as well saying she’s a big girl now and she should be ashamed for still wearing the nappies. This is so wrong on so many levels, but I’m not going to get into details why, just my own opinion.
What happens, though, when your little one is not actually ready for this step? You educate yourself about potty training techniques and approaches, decide which one you will use, and start the training itself. If your toddler is not ready yet, the whole process will be distressing for the little one, it will take longer, and parents will go crazy during this. I never wanted to force anything into happening before time, and I am grateful for every step Arianna makes into growing and when she reaches a milestone. That’s why we waited until she was ready and potty training came naturally and was and still is one of the most fun parts of our day.
What are these signs though? How do we know? I have studied long about this and have listed them down below for you to make it easier:
- Is able to follow simple instructions
- Is able to coordinate his movements well enough to be able to run without falling
- Urinates less frequently and in larger quantities
- Is able to climb and to go down the stairs without your help
- Bowel movements have a specific frequency and is easy to know when she wants to go
- Can retain urine during a 2 hour nap
- Can sit in one place 2-5 minutes on your request only
- Can dress and undress of trousers.
- Is uncomfortable with a wet or dirty nappy and is able to inform you of this
- Shows an interest of the toilet or potty and tries to imitate you, by sitting on the potty, even fully clothed, lifts the potty seat, attempts to flush it, uses toilet paper
- Is more independent
- Can put toys back on the shelf after playing with them
- Shows interest in big-kid underwear.
If your toddler shows most of these signs you can start potty training and it’s less likely you will struggle with it for too long. Don’t let yourself pressured by the society if you believe he is not ready yet. As one specialist doctor once said in an interview (can’t remember his name), even without any help, when the child is ready will potty train naturally and independently.
Every child develops differently and our job as parents is to support them in an individual way, making them feel loved and understood no matter what.
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